30 Days to Emotional Awareness & Wellness Challenge
Day 17: Less Media, More Social
In the 1980’s, many of us witnessed the birth and ascent of the Digital Age. The influx and infusion of technology platforms and tools developed to revolutionize communication and expand our reach in creating connections have since made an impact on our daily lives. It has also led to the explosion of social media—virtual public networks and sites used for social congregation.
Thus far, social media has caused both constructive and destructive individual, organizational, and global outcomes. Access to education and information, enhanced connectivity, awareness-building, community development, emotional expression, and easier communication are some of the benefits reported (Nath, 2018; Sharma, 2018). As these examples demonstrate, social media platforms do improve different aspects of our lives.
We also know social media sometimes has a way of getting in the way. Research shows it has many harmful effects that act as a disservice to our emotional well-being and do not benefit our overall mental health. This is because, as Walton (2017) noted, social media provides a breeding ground for addictive behaviors, misinterpretations, destructive thinking, bias, distrust and mistrust, and sadness and isolation.
When it comes to our relationships, social media also negatively impacts how we manage them. Social media is supposed to help us cast a wider net and build global connections as well as access, gain, and share knowledge and data. The overarching goal is to make a positive social impact, but as Nath (2018) pointed out, it is having the opposite effect. She mentioned social media use and misuse is contributing to decreased intellectual capital, social divide, sharing of false reports and information, invasions of privacy, and cyberbullying, to name a few.
The number of quality interpersonal relationships being formed using these public sites is also reducing. Despite these drops in quality, we can work towards reversing this by changing the way we use social media and by being aware and choosing to be more socially receptive. Using social media etiquette, for instance, is one way to increase connection quality.
Let’s use LinkedIn connections as an example. It’s been said that first impressions are the most important when starting any type of new relationship. However, in the virtual world, this involves the first interaction or introduction that takes place. In my experience, the way in which the connection begins usually influences the outcome.
So, how effective is your social media etiquette? How do you feel about the etiquette of others? What conclusions do you make on your first virtual interaction? Here’s a challenge: Scroll down your list of LinkedIn connections. Make note of how many you have actually attempted to establish a personal connection with and vice versa.
Now, take a closer look to get an idea of how many of those connections went beyond the introduction-less request to connect. Or the casual “Add me to your network” and then nothing rendition of connecting. What was your response? How did your reaction impact the formation (or lack thereof) of the relationship?
Use the above-mentioned questions to reflect on how these types of social media exchanges impact the quality of the connections you’re making online. After you reflect, identify strategies you can use to trigger change, be more social, and develop more quality connections.
References
Nath, S. S. (2018, June 26). Impact of the fourth industrial revolution. Retrieved from https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/impact-fourth-industrial-revolution-swikriti-sheela-nath/
Sharma, V. (2018, February 14). 7 ways that social media is affecting us positively. Retrieved from https://curatti.com/social-media-positive-effects/
Walton, A. G. (2017, June 30). 6 ways social media affects our mental health. Retrieved from https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2017/06/30/a-run-down-of-social-medias-effects-on-our-mental-health/#3dd475172e5a



